To advise or not to advise
Who wants advise, by the way? We have learnt what we have learnt from
adults and we donít want the self same adults telling us what we should
do now and what we shouldnít. We are doing now the same things they did
then, at our age. History repeats, eh?
Of course weíd very much like to do things in our own style at what
ever cost. Learn lessons the hard way. Then there are ups and downs.
Sometimes we do end up in a rut. Thatís the time we feel kind of lost
and need some sign pointing the way out. We accept we are too proud to
ask for help but we do need a word to lift us up when we are down. But
definitely not advise and I-told-you-so stories. Scrap the pity
As long as the adults are not force feeding us or holding the gun at
our shoulder instructing ...(aah! how we hate that word.)... where to
go, how to go and when to stop. Its time the adults stop spoon feeding
us. Rather leave notice boards or signs to show the way. Or lead from
the front. Nothing is clear to us than good example.
We may follow. We may not. Nevertheless leaving a green light here, a
red light there is not all that despicable. All we need at times,
(remember only at times) is positive inspiration and conducive
atmosphere to do what they call the right thing. But then we have our
own opinions on what is what and what is kind of okay and what, after
all, may turn out not all that fantastic.
Didnít we learn from you guys that experience teaches us the good and
bad. So why get in our way when we want to experience what ever.
Confused? As usual. Perhaps we young people are bad at expressing in
precise words that is clear to adults. The problems is not ours. Its all
about not gearing ourselves with the language that break barriers.
You expect us to understand what you say and we expect you to
understand us. The problem flows like a river and we are on the two
banks that never meet. Not ever. You call it generation gap? With all
the modern day constructions turned on why not build a bridge that can
withstand generations?Aaah... Whateverrrr.
If you carefully watch us young people with interest, you will learn
that we have our own language, phrases, gestures, signs and sounds that
mean something entirely different to adult communication patterns.
For instance when we point the tiny finger and the thumb away from
the fist we mean phone,which is our life line.. If we raise the middle
and the second finger up we mean victory and that we are with you. No.
We donít want to raise anymore fingers middle or other wise lest we
offend you guys.
We would like you guys to be there for us...more than anything just
lend an ear.. Stop talking for once and for heavens sake LISTEN to what
we have to say. We want to talk to you...we want to tell you soooo much.
You should be sharp enough to read between the lines we say and sense
every stammering...every pause...every hesitant word like a microphone
at sound level 7.
If you understand us right, with every soft word we utter, we are
screaming from the roof tops. Every time we scream we are tearing out
our hearts if not our hair.. Every time we open our mouths to speak and
shut up without saying anything, itís a red light for you. If we just
look blank not saying a word for hours, days or weeks we are dead.
Bored. Off road. Or just donít recognize you guys... Thatís when we are
convinced you are not interested in what we have to say.
Thatís the moment when you need to listen to. We are telling you a
lot without a word. Silence is not golden as you guys believe. Silence
for us means we are lost. Broken. Desperate. Destitute...and about to
commit.... whatever comes first. Never mind. Who cares, anyways.
Stop imagining. Just listen. Notice us. Take interest. Today we are
alive and kicking. We have needs. Wants. Yearnings. Hopes. Beliefs as
much as you do. Be there for us. Just be there TODAY.
For us, tomorrowís another world. Today is everything.