|Friday, 25 February 2005|
Post tsunami children need mental evolution
by L. V. Cabral
In the recent tsunami disaster it was reported, one fourth of the victims were innocent children, the flowers of the nation. However, a substantial number of children have survived the devastation miraculously.
Most of them have lost their dear parents, relatives, all their belongings and become orphans overnight! Evidently, they are at a cross roads at the crucial point of their life. No doubt, they are well looked after by the benevolent state, local and foreign benefactors and benefactresses by providing them with sustenance, food and drink for their physical growth and satisfaction. To be a perfect man he should have a healthy mind in a healthy body.
The rushing tidal waves carried away the victims dashing them against any object found on their way, injuring them physically. Such physical injuries are being cured by medical corps within a specified time but mental injuries may take a long time to be cured even by proficient psychotherapists.
Shock, fear, anxiety, panic, terror and horror, all destructive negative thoughts are often embedded in the minds of the child victims. The efficient psychotherapists by effective process and techniques move away such destructive thoughts and pensive moods from their minds and fill their minds with constructive and progressive thoughts and sentiments, like, hope, ambition, aspiration, expectancy, humour and laughter.
Their unfortunate tragic past should be completely dismissed from their minds. It appears some instructors ask the tsunami victims to reveal their unfortunate experiences in the rushing tsunami waves, how they lost their parents or relatives or how they lost their belongings. Psychologically, it is very detrimental to the reformation and progress of the victims' minds. It is like scratching a wound that is being healed.
The facial expressions of sadness, brooding, cheerlessness, silence and these children imply their depressed and dispirited mind. The face is always the mirror of the mind. By judicious techniques and planning the competent therapists, regenerate and sooth the depressed, dispirited and melancholy minds of these children.
Group activities, singing, dancing, playing, taking part in plays, games, going on trips in groups, excursions, pilgrimages are recommended for remedying and rectifying the affected minds of the child victims. If properly manipulated by the child psychologists and child care experts, salutary health effects could be achieved within a considerable period.
In character formation of children, in their most impressionable ages home sweet home under loving, understanding exemplary model parents is paramount. Such fortunate children very often express their sentiments, thoughts and ideas freely without fear and embarrassment.
At school such children invariably display their talent and skill in conversation. Communication in speech by speaking freely, fluently and convincingly. They consistently show traits of leadership in all school activities. Later in life invariably they would be successful personalities in any walk of life.
On the contrary, the tsunami victims deprived of the warm, loving care and attention of their parents, like to be silent, brooding over the past traumatic disaster and live by themselves. Even at school very often, they lag behind without taking part in normal school activities. Especially their skill in speech is backward and defiant.
Therefore, those in charge of tsunami victims in orphanages and child care centres have to play a very responsible, sacred duty and obligatory role by placing themselves in the position of the destitute children's parents.
They should look after them lovingly and bring them up judiciously so that they would forget their post traumatic incidents and fit themselves to normal life in school and society and blossom in future. With a sincere and noble motive some benevolent gentlemen and ladies adopt some post tsunami children to bring them up affectionately as their own children.
Apparently, hundreds of such large-hearted, compassionate noble persons, local and foreign have come forward to adopt such unfortunate children. It is a meritorious deed . (Kusalassa Upasampada).
When the tsunami children grow up they would definitely sing their benefactors' praises and show their deep gratitude to their foster parents.
Such noble personalities would have happiness, joy, contentment and blessings eternally.
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